Domestic Violence Prevention
The Junior League of Los Angeles is committed to eradicating Domestic Violence. One of the ways JLLA works towards this goal is by publishing a brochure with Kaiser Permanente. For a print version, click here.
JLLA salutes the many other organizations and companies working toward prevention and elimination of domestic violence, including Verizon and its HopeLine program. Verizon makes it easy to support the cause; by donating your used cell phone, you will help Verizon in its efforts to provide safe lines of communication to victims of domestic violence and to provide grants to organizations working to end it. For more information about the program, click here.
Are you being hurt by someone you love?
It doesn’t have to be that way.
Ask yourself, does your partner…
- Threaten to hurt you, your children, family or pets?
- Hurt you by calling you names, humiliating you or telling you that you are worthless?
- Intimidate you emotionally or physically?
- Isolate you from family and friends?
- Get overly jealous?
- Criticize you for daily things, such as your cooking, clothing or appearance?
- Insist on controlling finances or discourage you from getting or keeping a job?
- Force you to have sex when you don’t want to?
- Throw things, hit you, pull your hair, choke you or threaten you with weapons?
If so, you are not alone.
Some facts you should know:
- Although 95% of all partner abuse victims are women, domestic violence can happen to men and women of any race, age, sexual orientation or religion, among family members and couples who are married, living together or who are dating. Teens, pregnant women and the elderly are especially at risk.
- Abuse increases over time. The FBI reports that at least one in three female homicide victims in the United States is killed by a boyfriend or husband.
- Abusers can be anyone. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels. One of every two families in the United States is involved in domestic violence at some time.
- Domestic violence is not caused by the victim or by stress, alcohol or drugs. Abuse is a learned behavior, most often learned by seeing abuse used as a tactic of control in the family home where the abuser grew up.
- Children who see violence in the home can be affected in the same way as children who are sexually or physically abused, and they are more likely to grow up to be abusers or victims.
You are not responsible for the violence.
People are waiting to help.
If you are being abused, there is a way out.
If you are in immediate danger…
- Tell someone that you are in danger (a physician, nurse, teacher, friend, etc.)
- Get to a safe place – a police station, hospital, fire station, a friend’s house or any crowded place. Do not leave clues about where you can be found.
- Call the police as soon as it is safe. Tell the police the facts of the case and ask for an Emergency Protective Order. But remember, no Protective Order can guarantee your safety.
If you have time, plan ahead…
- Develop an escape plan in advance and rehearse it until you know it by heart.
- Keep the following items with a trusted friend or relative: a set of keys, some extra money, copies of your and your children’s birth certificates, social security cards, passports or green cards, your driver’s license, address book, car registration, bank account information, lease or property ownership records, family medical records, insurance records and other important documents. If possible, collect this type of information for the abuser.
- If possible, keep your cell phone and a bank account in your own name.
- Pack a small bag for yourself and your children (include clothes, toiletries, a favorite toy, medicine, etc.) and hide it in a safe place.
- Make arrangements with a person you trust for a safe escape or contact a local shelter for help (see the list of resources attached). You can contact friends and relatives later.
- Do not leave clues where you can be found. Remember, credit cards, checks, and telephone records can be traced.
- Keep a diary of the abuse you have suffered, including dates, times, witnesses and other details.
- Teach your children to not get in the middle of an abusive episode.
- Teach your children how to get to safety, to call 911 and to give your address and phone number to the police.
- Teach your children who to call for help.
Once you are safe…
- Get a Restraining Order. You can get Domestic Violence Restraining Orders free of charge at your local Superior Court. Always carry a copy of the order with you and make sure your local police station has a copy.
- Cooperate with the police and the District Attorney’s Office.
- If you are married or have children, seek legal assistance for divorce and/or court orders for child custody and visitation, child support and spousal support. Contact your local courthouse family law self-help center for information.
Domestic Violence Hotlines and Resources
If you are in immediate danger, call 911.National and California Hotlines and ResourcesNational Domestic Violence Hotline (24-Hour)800-799-SAFE (7233)www.thehotline.org For a full list of national domestic violence hotlines, shelters and services by state, visit:www.thehotline.org/get-help/help-in-your-area Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network (RAINN)800-656-HOPE (4673) (24-Hour Hotline)Online Hotline: ohl.rainn.org/onlinewww.rainn.org California Partnership to End Domestic Violence800-524-4765www.cpedv.org For a full list of California domestic violence hotlines, shelters and services by county, visit:www.cpedv.org/Resources L California Domestic Violence Shelters (Statewide List and Regional Crisis Hotlines)www.divorcesource.com/shelters/california.shtml Los Angeles County Hotlines and Resources Los Angeles Police DepartmentDomestic Violence Hotline: 800-978-3600Official LAPD DV Website: www.lapdonline.org/get_informed/content_basic_view/1398 1736 Family Crisis Center
213-745-6434310-379-36201736familycrisiscenter.org Project Sister Family Services
909-626-4357www.projectsister.org Southern California Coalition on Battered Women
213-655-6098 Los Angeles Rape and Battering 24-Hour Hotline213-626-3393 (Central Los Angeles)310-392-8381 (South Los Angeles) Central & West Los Angeles Hotlines and Resources Center for Pacific Asian Family800-339-3940www.nurturingchange.org Dominguez Family Shelter
310-764-4022 Chicana Services
310-392-9896www.lacsac.com Sojourn (Ocean Park Community Center)
310-264-6644www.opcc.net Good Shepherd Shelter
323-737-6111www.goodshepherdshelter.org Central Los Angeles Hotlines and Resources Jenesse Center800-479-7328 (24-Hour Hotline)jenesse.org Peace & Joy Care Center310-898-3117peaceandjoycarecenter.com Compton YWCA Rape Hotline310-764-1403 San Fernando Valley Hotlines and Resources Haven Hills818-887-6589www.havenhills.org Valley Trauma Center Rape Crisis Center818-886-0453www.csun.edu/vtc San Gabriel Valley & East Los Angeles Hotlines and Resources Angel Step Inn562-906-5060angelstepinn.org East Los Angeles Women's Center800.585.6231 (24-Hour Bilingual Hotline)elawc.org Glendale YWCA888-999-7511(24-Hour Bilingual Hotline)www.glendaleywca.org Haven House323-681-2626 (24-Hour Bilingual Hotline)www.jfsla.org/havenhouse Women & Children Crisis Center 562-945-3939 (24-Hour Hotline)www.sheltersrighthand.org/shelter.html YWCA-Wings (San Gabriel)626-967-0658 (24-Hour Hotline)www.ywcasgv.org Advance/East L.A. Rape Hotline
800-585-6231 Orange County Hotlines and Resources
Interval House (Seal Beach)562-594-4555714-891-8121www.intervalhouse.org WTLC714-992-1931 (24-Hour Hotline)www.wtlc.org Family Violence Prevention Center of Orange County 919-929-7122(24-Hour Hotline) 866.929.7122 (Toll Free 24-Hour Hotline)fvpcoc.org Human Options (Orange County)877-854-3594 (24-Hour Hotline)humanoptions.org South Bay Hotlines and Resources Rainbow Services (San Pedro)310-547-9343 (24-Hour Bilingual Hotline)www.rainbowservicesdv.org Su Casa (Long Beach)562-402-4888 (24-Hour Hotline)www.sucasadv.org WomenShelter of Long Beach562-437-4663 (Hotline)www.womenshelterlb.com Inland Empire Hotlines and Resources
Alternative to Domestic Violence (Riverside County)951-683-0829 (24-Hour Hotline)www.alternativestodv.org Desert Sanctuary, Inc./Haley House (Barstow)
800-982-2221 (24-Hour Hotline) Doves (Big Bear)
800-851-7601 (24-Hour Hotline)www.doves-stop-violence.org High Desert Domestic Violence (Victorville)760-949-4357 (24-Hour Hotline)www.hddvp.org Morongo Basin Unity Home (29 Palms)760-366-9663 (24-Hour Hotline)www.joshuatreevillage.com/508/mbuh.htm House of Ruth (Pomona/Claremont)877-988-5559 (24-Hour Hotline)houseofruthinc.org Option House (Colton)909-381-3471 (24-Hour Hotline)www.wix.com/optionhouse11/option-house Antelope Valley, Palmdale & Santa Clarita Hotlines and Resources Valley Oasis805-945-6736www.valleyoasis.org Domestic Violence Center of Santa Clarita Valley661-259-HELP (4357) (24-Hour Hotline)www.dvcsantaclarita.com Ventura County Hotlines and Resources Interface Children and Family Services
800-636-6738 (24-Hour Hotline)icfs.org Coalition for Family Harmony800-300-2181 (24-Hour Bilingual Hotline)www.thecoalition.org San Diego County Center for Community SolutionsSan Diego County-Coastal Location858-272-5777888-385-4657 (Hotline)www.ccssd.org Center for Community SolutionsEast County Location-La Mesa619-697-7477888-385-4657 (Hotline)www.ccssd.org Center for Community SolutionsNorth County Location-Escondido760-747-6282888-385-4657 (Hotline)www.ccssd.org Community Resource Center LibreEncinitas760-753-8300877-633-1112 (Hotline)www.crcncc.org Women’s Resource CenterOceanside760-757-3500 (24-Hour Hotline)www.wrcsd.org