Domestic Violence Prevention

The Junior League of Los Angeles is committed to eradicating Domestic Violence. One of the ways JLLA works towards this goal is by publishing a brochure with Kaiser Permanente.  For a print version, click here.

JLLA salutes the many other organizations and companies working toward prevention and elimination of domestic violence, including Verizon and its HopeLine program. Verizon makes it easy to support the cause; by donating your used cell phone, you will help Verizon in its efforts to provide safe lines of communication to victims of domestic violence and to provide grants to organizations working to end it. For more information about the program, click here.

Are you being hurt by someone you love?  
It doesn’t have to be that way.

Ask yourself, does your partner…

  • Threaten to hurt you, your children, family or pets?
  • Hurt you by calling you names, humiliating you or telling you that you are worthless?
  • Intimidate you emotionally or physically?
  • Isolate you from family and friends?
  • Get overly jealous?
  • Criticize you for daily things, such as your cooking, clothing or appearance?
  • Insist on controlling finances or discourage you from getting or keeping a job?
  • Force you to have sex when you don’t want to?
  • Throw things, hit you, pull your hair, choke you or threaten you with weapons?

If so, you are not alone.

Some facts you should know:

  • Although 95% of all partner abuse victims are women, domestic violence can happen to men and women of any race, age, sexual orientation or religion, among family members and couples who are married, living together or who are dating.  Teens, pregnant women and the elderly are especially at risk.
  • Abuse increases over time.  The FBI reports that at least one in three female homicide victims in the United States is killed by a boyfriend or husband.  
  • Abusers can be anyone. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.  One of every two families in the United States is involved in domestic violence at some time.
  • Domestic violence is not caused by the victim or by stress, alcohol or drugs.  Abuse is a learned behavior, most often learned by seeing abuse used as a tactic of control in the family home where the abuser grew up. 
  • Children who see violence in the home can be affected in the same way as children who are sexually or physically abused, and they are more likely to grow up to be abusers or victims.

You are not responsible for the violence.

People are waiting to help.

If you are being abused, there is a way out.

If you are in immediate danger…

  • Tell someone that you are in danger (a physician, nurse, teacher, friend, etc.)
  • Get to a safe place – a police station, hospital, fire station, a friend’s house or any crowded place. Do not leave clues about where you can be found.
  • Call the police as soon as it is safe.  Tell the police the facts of the case and ask for an Emergency Protective Order.  But remember, no Protective Order can guarantee your safety.

If you have time, plan ahead…

  • Develop an escape plan in advance and rehearse it until you know it by heart. 
  • Keep the following items with a trusted friend or relative: a set of keys, some extra money, copies of your and your children’s birth certificates, social security cards, passports or green cards, your driver’s license, address book, car registration, bank account information, lease or property ownership records, family medical records, insurance records and other important documents.  If possible, collect this type of information for the abuser.
  • If possible, keep your cell phone and a bank account in your own name.
  • Pack a small bag for yourself and your children (include clothes, toiletries, a favorite toy, medicine, etc.) and hide it in a safe place.
  • Make arrangements with a person you trust for a safe escape or contact a local shelter for help (see the list of resources attached).  You can contact friends and relatives later.
  • Do not leave clues where you can be found.  Remember, credit cards, checks, and telephone records can be traced.
  • Keep a diary of the abuse you have suffered, including dates, times, witnesses and other details. 
    • Teach your children to not get in the middle of an abusive episode.
    • Teach your children how to get to safety, to call 911 and to give your address and phone number to the police.
    • Teach your children who to call for help.

Once you are safe…

  • Get a Restraining Order.  You can get Domestic Violence Restraining Orders free of charge at your local Superior Court.  Always carry a copy of the order with you and make sure your local police station has a copy.
  • Cooperate with the police and the District Attorney’s Office.
  • If you are married or have children, seek legal assistance for divorce and/or court orders for child custody and visitation, child support and spousal support. Contact your local courthouse family law self-help center for information.

Domestic Violence Hotlines and Resources

If you are in immediate danger, call 911.

National and California Hotlines and Resources
National Domestic Violence Hotline (24-Hour)
800-799-SAFE (7233)
www.thehotline.org
 
For a full list of national domestic violence hotlines, shelters and services by state, visit:
www.thehotline.org/get-help/help-in-your-area
 
Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network (RAINN)
800-656-HOPE (4673) (24-Hour Hotline)
Online Hotline: ohl.rainn.org/online
www.rainn.org
 
California Partnership to End Domestic Violence
800-524-4765
www.cpedv.org
 
For a full list of California domestic violence hotlines, shelters and services by county, visit:
www.cpedv.org/Resources L
 
California Domestic Violence Shelters (Statewide List and Regional Crisis Hotlines)
www.divorcesource.com/shelters/california.shtml
 
Los Angeles County Hotlines and Resources
 
Los Angeles Police Department
Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-978-3600
Official LAPD DV Website: www.lapdonline.org/get_informed/content_basic_view/1398
 
1736 Family Crisis Center
213-745-6434
310-379-3620
1736familycrisiscenter.org
 
Project Sister Family Services
909-626-4357
www.projectsister.org
 
Southern California Coalition on Battered Women
213-655-6098
 
Los Angeles Rape and Battering 24-Hour Hotline
213-626-3393 (Central Los Angeles)
310-392-8381 (South Los Angeles)
 
Central & West Los Angeles Hotlines and Resources
 
Center for Pacific Asian Family
800-339-3940
www.nurturingchange.org
 
Dominguez Family Shelter
310-764-4022
 
Chicana Services
310-392-9896
www.lacsac.com
 
Sojourn (Ocean Park Community Center)
310-264-6644
www.opcc.net
 
Good Shepherd Shelter
323-737-6111
www.goodshepherdshelter.org
 
Central Los Angeles Hotlines and Resources
 
Jenesse Center
800-479-7328 (24-Hour Hotline)
jenesse.org
 
Peace & Joy Care Center
310-898-3117
peaceandjoycarecenter.com
 
Compton YWCA Rape Hotline
310-764-1403
 
San Fernando Valley Hotlines and Resources
 
Haven Hills
818-887-6589
www.havenhills.org
 
Valley Trauma Center Rape Crisis Center
818-886-0453
www.csun.edu/vtc
 
San Gabriel Valley & East Los Angeles Hotlines and Resources
 
Angel Step Inn
562-906-5060
angelstepinn.org
 
East Los Angeles Women's Center
800.585.6231 (24-Hour Bilingual Hotline)
elawc.org
 
Glendale YWCA
888-999-7511(24-Hour Bilingual Hotline)
www.glendaleywca.org
 
Haven House
323-681-2626 (24-Hour Bilingual Hotline)
www.jfsla.org/havenhouse
 
Women & Children Crisis Center  
562-945-3939 (24-Hour Hotline)
www.sheltersrighthand.org/shelter.html
 
YWCA-Wings (San Gabriel)
626-967-0658 (24-Hour Hotline)
www.ywcasgv.org
 
Advance/East L.A. Rape Hotline
800-585-6231
 
Orange County Hotlines and Resources

Interval House (Seal Beach)
562-594-4555
714-891-8121
www.intervalhouse.org
 
WTLC
714-992-1931 (24-Hour Hotline)
www.wtlc.org
 
Family Violence Prevention Center of Orange County
 919-929-7122(24-Hour Hotline)
 866.929.7122 (Toll Free 24-Hour Hotline)
fvpcoc.org
 
Human Options (Orange County)
877-854-3594 (24-Hour Hotline)
humanoptions.org
 
South Bay Hotlines and Resources
 
Rainbow Services (San Pedro)
310-547-9343 (24-Hour Bilingual Hotline)
www.rainbowservicesdv.org
 
Su Casa (Long Beach)
562-402-4888 (24-Hour Hotline)
www.sucasadv.org
 
WomenShelter of Long Beach
562-437-4663 (Hotline)
www.womenshelterlb.com
 
Inland Empire Hotlines and Resources

Alternative to Domestic Violence (Riverside County)
951-683-0829 (24-Hour Hotline)
www.alternativestodv.org
 
Desert Sanctuary, Inc./Haley House (Barstow)
800-982-2221 (24-Hour Hotline)
 
Doves (Big Bear)
800-851-7601 (24-Hour Hotline)
www.doves-stop-violence.org
 
High Desert Domestic Violence (Victorville)
760-949-4357 (24-Hour Hotline)
www.hddvp.org
 
Morongo Basin Unity Home (29 Palms)
760-366-9663 (24-Hour Hotline)
www.joshuatreevillage.com/508/mbuh.htm
 
House of Ruth (Pomona/Claremont)
877-988-5559 (24-Hour Hotline)
houseofruthinc.org
 
Option House (Colton)
909-381-3471 (24-Hour Hotline)
www.wix.com/optionhouse11/option-house
 
Antelope Valley, Palmdale & Santa Clarita Hotlines and Resources
 
Valley Oasis
805-945-6736
www.valleyoasis.org
 
Domestic Violence Center of Santa Clarita Valley
661-259-HELP (4357) (24-Hour Hotline)
www.dvcsantaclarita.com
 
Ventura County Hotlines and Resources
 
Interface Children and Family Services
800-636-6738 (24-Hour Hotline)
icfs.org
 
Coalition for Family Harmony
800-300-2181 (24-Hour Bilingual Hotline)
www.thecoalition.org
 
San Diego County
 
Center for Community Solutions
San Diego County-Coastal Location
858-272-5777
888-385-4657 (Hotline)
www.ccssd.org
 
Center for Community Solutions
East County Location-La Mesa
619-697-7477
888-385-4657 (Hotline)
www.ccssd.org
 
Center for Community Solutions
North County Location-Escondido
760-747-6282
888-385-4657 (Hotline)
www.ccssd.org
 
Community Resource Center Libre
Encinitas
760-753-8300
877-633-1112 (Hotline)
www.crcncc.org
 
Women’s Resource Center
Oceanside
760-757-3500 (24-Hour Hotline)
www.wrcsd.org

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